Comments on: How Curious Moments Add Value

By: Davina

Davina — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 16:32:29 +0000

Hi Pamir.
I was glad to participate — it was a good way to bring like-minded individuals together. I’ve read some of the other posts submitted to your blog carnival and was glad I did. I’m happy to hear that you’ve added me to your blogroll, thank you.

That’s a good point you’ve made about asking questions. There are so many ways to ask just one question, and I can imagine how that would influence the answer.

By: Pamir | Reiki Help Blog

Pamir | Reiki Help Blog — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 12:54:47 +0000

Thanks for your contribution to the 177th Carnival of Healing. I've included you in my blogroll too. The questions we ask are & how we ask are integral to the answers we receive. Pamir | Reiki Help Blog’s last blog post..Modern Reiki

By: Davina

Davina — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 17:58:41 +0000

Hi Liara. You share so much wisdom both on your blog and in the comments you leave. You are a blessing. I’m still thinking about one of yours I saw recently, I think it was on The Jungle of Life, about there being no opposition… Thanks for sharing your wisdom!

By: Liara Covert

Liara Covert — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 16:50:56 +0000

Davina, a friendly reminder is that every question is the right question for you at the moment you choose to ask it. You can evolve to where your mind no longer visualizes certain choices as risks. This is the point where you realize every experience has intrinsic, immeasurable value.

By: Reiki Help Blog » Carnival of Healing #177

Reiki Help Blog » Carnival of Healing #177 — Sat, 21 Feb 2009 05:07:54 +0000

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By: The Value Project Finale | Insight Writer

The Value Project Finale | Insight Writer — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 02:54:14 +0000

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By: Davina

Davina — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 08:02:08 +0000

Hi Liara.
I like how you’ve put this. How valuing curiosity is related to stepping out of your comfort zone. In some way, curiosity makes the stretch less “risky”. Even that alone is inspiring. Thanks!

By: Liara Covert

Liara Covert — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 03:46:15 +0000

Davina, you are always discovering new things about yourself. This assists you to empower others. The whole idea of learning to value curiosity and unsual feelings may all be related to stepping out of your comfort zone. You are stretching yourself regularly, even when you engage in a kind of activity you enjoy. You are connecting with people in ways that show them you are not afraid to learn. This inspires others. Liara Covert’s last blog post..5 Ways to evaluate your current state

By: Davina

Davina — Sun, 25 Jan 2009 23:04:21 +0000

Hi Alik.
Welcome! Thanks for your comment. Children are amazingly curious and creative aren’t they? Fearless too. Crazy ideas are the best for breaking out of the box, so to speak. That’s cute how they are observing their curious father, LOL.

Hi Sara.
I know what you mean about not knowing what to ask next. It can be really frustrating. Sometimes the silence is better than asking a question, just for the sake of asking a question. You could try observing people’s gestures when you’re out and about and not engaged in the actual conversation. That way you won’t be distracted by thinking about your next statement and be able to just observe — try to pick up the feelings behind their gestures and expressions.

Hi Tom.
When a person is being curious, how can they be wrong? :-) It’s a perfect playground to learn from. I love it too! Thank you.

Hi Jannie.
Awh, that’s sweet of you — thank you. I hope you’ve been having a “Funster” day ;-) This day started out with printer problems, but thankfully I managed to get them fixed and avoided having to buy a new one – phew! I was relieved.

By: Jannie Funster

Jannie Funster — Sun, 25 Jan 2009 15:12:28 +0000

Thinking about you today and hoping it will be a joyous day for you! Jannie Funster’s last blog post..Sunday May 10th 7:30 p.m.

By: Tom Volkar / Delightful Work

Tom Volkar / Delightful Work — Sun, 25 Jan 2009 14:44:06 +0000

Ah ... curiosity, is there anything better? I guess that's one reason why I coach. Deep reflective listening helps us to observe and learn so much more than meets the eye. I love the intensity of truly tuning in. "A person never knows what they’re missing until they go there. And they can’t go there if they assume they are already there." This is brilliant. Every educator ought put it above their classroom doors. Tom Volkar / Delightful Work’s last blog post..Speak Up - Silence Makes You Poor

By: Sara at On Simplicity

Sara at On Simplicity — Sun, 25 Jan 2009 05:23:38 +0000

I totally get where Dot is coming from with her venetian blind blank. I have those moments where I know that all I need to do to continue the conversation is ask a question. And I can’t for the life of me think of anything! Of course, there is some of that self-censoring you mentioned going on.

I love your easy, simple explanation of level three communication. I seriously need to work on that, because I’m quite oblivious to subtle clues. Doh!

By: Alik Levin | PracticeThis.com

Alik Levin | PracticeThis.com — Sat, 24 Jan 2009 20:41:43 +0000

Davina,
The post hooked me on the topic – i like your writing style.
Here is my take – i think my curiosity adds value to my kids. They observe curious father and they get curious too. I think it gets them think more creatively and throw “crazy” ideas. The trick is not calling these ideas crazy but call it great imagination or similar. I am amazed what my two little girls make up sometimes … it is not only me but my curiosity serves as their catalyst i guess…

Alik Levin | PracticeThis.com’s last blog post..Kaizen Parents – GTD Kids

By: Davina

Davina — Sat, 24 Jan 2009 19:33:32 +0000

Hi Mark & welcome!

You’re right, curiosity really does spur our imagination. There are no limits when you are curious. Thanks! BTW, I loved the quote you used on your last post, “The trouble with the rat-race is that even if you win, you’re still a rat.” – Lilly Tomlin

I had not heard this regarding 911, so I Googled it and found an article. Thanks for mentioning this.

Here is a quote from Thomas Kean, the chairman of the National Commission on Terrorist Attacks… “We were unprepared. We did not grasp the magnitude of a threat that had been gathering over a considerable period of time. As we detail in our report, this was a failure of policy, management, capability, and, above all, a failure of imagination.”

Hi Ruth.
Gossip is a bad habit. Funny how some people get excited about it. I guess it makes them feel important because they have “information” to share. I hear you about “friendly curiosity”. When you know a person very well it is hard to be objective about personal things and friendships can be spoiled over this.

Hi Jennifer.
I like how you’ve put this. Getting our of our way, so to speak is a lot easier when we are curious about something. This seems to silence that ego and lets us connect without fear.

Hi Lance.
Wow, this is an excellent way to put it! Thank you. After I read your comment it occurred to me that this gives people “permission” to take off their mask and just be themselves.

By: Lance

Lance — Sat, 24 Jan 2009 11:20:29 +0000

Hi Davina,
Echoing what Jennifer has said — I LOVE this also Davina! Being genuinely curious, how powerful that can be. And when this falls into place – when being genuinely curious leads to another person sharing some more information – a real and true dialogue can develop that has real meaning. And connections can be developed that really do deep. And that’s a wonderful thought!

Lance’s last blog post..Are These My Skinny Jeans?