Comments on: Shopping for Effective Attitudes

By: Davina

Davina — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 08:51:35 +0000

Hi Patricia.
Good things come in small packages :-) Thank you.

Hi Cricket.
That’s a good point about choosing to see a situation in a different way. Just that action of shifting a point of view can shift a feeling. Let me know how these questions work for you and the boys.

By: Cricket

Cricket — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 03:48:53 +0000

Last but not least I am trailing up the end. I struggle with this myself. Being a mom of two I am constantly trying to see the positive in everything because I expect that of my children. When one of us is negative it seems as though all three of us are. I feel that one has a choice to of how to view a situation and some/or most of the time one must make a valid decision of how to react.

These are some powerful questions to use.

By: Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker

Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 17:49:43 +0000

To be such a small act, a smile can have such a profound effect upon you and others. Love the article. Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker’s last blog post..Fear Is My Friend

By: Davina

Davina — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 23:31:58 +0000

Hi Kim.
We can make choices about how we feel, but it’s sure not easy sometimes is it?… At least it’s not easy to be conscious of how we ARE feeling and that we can actually make a choice. Emotions run sneakily on a subconscious level. Like I mentioned to Dot, sometimes just remembering what it feels like to smile can soften the awareness and to remind you that you can make a choice.

What just occurred to me is that deep down all we want is to know we’ve been heard. On some level, as weird as this sounds, remembering just the energy of a smile opens the door so you can listen to yourself.

Hi Cath.
Welcome back! I’ve missed you. I hope you are fully recovered from your infection. Thanks for popping by.

Hmmm…. I don’t think you can actually switch your critic off or on. Just your perspective of him or her… or it. You can only just notice the critic and decide what you WANT to do rather than what you SHOULD do. I bet you are behind on a lot of things — they feel like shoulds because there are so many of them and you don’t know where to start.

By: Cath Lawson

Cath Lawson — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 21:51:09 +0000

Hi Davina- This is excellent. I managed to shut my inner critic off, like the Tolle book told me too. But now I’m wondering if I should switch him on again, then maybe he would make me do all the things I don’t feel like doing.

I only just started back blogging yesterday and I don’t think I’m going to manage to come up with a quote in time. I feel quite brain-dead right now. But I am looking forward to reading them all.

By: Kim Woodbridge

Kim Woodbridge — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 19:45:48 +0000

I'm like Vered in that I've tended to be more of a cynical person than a positive one. I've started to let that go and have learned that I can make choices about how I feel. I'm certainly not full of rainbows but I've learned to not let little things bother me so much. I call them little earthquakes (after the Tori Amos album) and say to myself is this a big earthquake or a little one. I don't like it when strangers tell me to smile. It's intrusive and they have no idea how I might be feeling. It might be true grief and sadness not just normal grumpiness and I would never be smiling when I was experiencing those emotions. I guess I could spend more time telling myself to smile :-) Kim Woodbridge’s last blog post..February Special: 15% off All Services (I Love My Clients)

By: Davina

Davina — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 07:28:57 +0000

EVERYONE:
I’ve just been reading through your comments here and have been appreciating everything you have shared. I value your thoughts and the time you spend reading and making comments. I wanted to take a moment to say THANK YOU for continuing to support my blog. And to the newcomers, thank you for taking the time to pop in and say hi. This has been very fulfilling to share with you all. My warmest thanks!!!

By: Davina

Davina — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 04:42:43 +0000

Hi Leanne.
You are most welcome to “steal” these questions. Help yourself :-) Thank you for your feedback about the new blog. And, I am more than happy to support your blog — your posts resonate with me and I quite enjoy popping by. Life has called me away from blogging for the last 3 days and I have a lot of catching up to do now. I’m glad to hear you say that you have your mojo back.

Hi Sara.
You’re welcome. “Mirror mirror on the wall…” ;-) I’m “ticked” that you want to employ these questions. Keep me posted on how they’ve worked for you.

By: Sara

Sara — Sun, 01 Feb 2009 22:39:20 +0000

Davina, I loved this post, especially the conversation with your "self" and the "shopping list" of questions. These are questions I will save for when I'm having a difficult day or don't want to look in the mirror! By the way, I was tickled to see you used my quote. Thanks! Sara’s last blog post..Blogging: Choosing Your Avatar

By: Leanne Magraith | Forever Change

Leanne Magraith | Forever Change — Sun, 01 Feb 2009 07:57:35 +0000

This post is vintage Davina at her best. It really struck a cord with me. I would occasionally have a bad start to a day and it allowed it to get worse due to a bad attitude. On those days I used to have my shopping trolley full when I was having a bad day. I kept collecting extra items to add to my load.

Wow how things have changed. I just don’t allow myself to feel down for too long. Even if I have to “artificially” lift myself out of a bad attitude I do whatever it takes to change. Some of the questions you highlighted in your post are similar to ones that I use. You have come up with some new questions though which is great cos I will steal them if you don’t mind… for me to use in the future.

Your new site is great by the way… and while I am here I also want to say a special thank you for visiting a few days back on my Meltdown post. I am slipping back into my blogging mojo again, and I really appreciate your visit during a very lean time on my blog.

Leanne Magraith | Forever Change’s last blog post..One Armed Push Ups in a Strappy Blue Dress – My Comfort Zone Story

By: Davina

Davina — Sun, 01 Feb 2009 05:56:08 +0000

Hi Jannie.
Thanks for popping by :-) Hope you are having a jolly weekend… you and your ukulele.

By: Jannie Funster

Jannie Funster — Sat, 31 Jan 2009 22:12:30 +0000

Just popping by! Yes, practice breeds success in matters of attitude "ajustment" Jannie Funster’s last blog post..3 & 1/2 days

By: Davina

Davina — Sat, 31 Jan 2009 06:41:28 +0000

Hi Lori.
LOL. I know what you mean. We’re there… now… no, now… no, now… :-)

Hi Jannie.
You are welcome! It really can be easy… I wonder why it can be so difficult too. Maybe that’s why a person can feel bad if they react — because they think they know better? But then again… it takes practice to self-manage those emotions.

Hi Patricia.
Thank you! Your comment just reminded me of something: You can’t solve a problem with the same mindset you were in when you “caused” it — or something like that. I like what your professor says about loosing the weight. Wow, there have been so many great suggestions shared here. It’s proof that our abilities are limitless.

I’m sorry to hear that you’re having trouble sleeping Patricia. I truly hope this is resolved soon. It is understandable that this would affect your mood.

Hi Liara.
I like how you’ve put this. It sounds like the acknowledgment you are speaking about is like making a connection with another person through a handshake.

By: Liara Covert

Liara Covert — Sat, 31 Jan 2009 02:50:47 +0000

Each moment you realize some reaction inside yoruself makes you stuck, this is like a primer for your won revelation. You have moved beyond awareness to the acknowledgement phase. You are well on your way to understanding you have untapped levels of inner power. Liara Covert’s last blog post..7 Reasons people fear spiritual awakening

By: patricia

patricia — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 22:43:12 +0000

I am back reading your good words today and that feels great! Thank you I am smiling to be back in action and smiling because what you say is a good practice.

One of my counseling professors used to say -”Loose the weight and then figure out why you gained it.” She put action first saying that as you work on the action the reasoning/or stumbling blocks or fears will just let you know.

I then think for every 30 minutes of smiling you burn 10 calories – it is an action…when you are feeling better you can figure out what motivated you to feel unhappy or crabby.

Lack of sleep is still making me feel crabby first…I have to take action to change my outlook…first thing every morning now…maybe this will be a good habit forming outcome?
Thanks for your lovely words and concepts.

patricia’s last blog post..Mug vs. Heart