I love Anthony Robbins — just followed him on Twitter. He has over 70K followers and is following 30 — Too funny!

Life can be the way you describe — no more “bad” days. You have shared a good perspective of self acceptance Evita. You are IN the moment. Thank you! I’d like to hire you to sail my ship, lol.

Hi Kathy.
Ok, tears are streaming down my face right now. You’ve gone and done it too :-) What a beautiful comment! I absolutely love the metaphors you’ve used here. What would we do without metaphors? How would we get our message across?

You have been through some rough storms and have come out on the other side with tons of wisdom — an island of wisdom :-) You were pretty hard on yourself weren’t you? Sounds like you had forgotten all that you had already accomplished… you built that boat that you were sailing in. As you say, you chose to get out on the ocean. Thank you for the continued support and encouragement.

Hi Cricket.
Sorry, but I had to chuckle… you were too afraid to sink to let it happen. Fear was your buddy! :-) I celebrate you for taking care of yourself and growing into your interests again, i.e., the photography that I know you have revisited. You are allowing yourself to grow and celebrate the joy in just being you. Way to go! I imagine that this has a rippling effect on your family too… and that comes back to you tenfold.

Hi Robin.
You’re welcome. The sheer act of opening up and sharing is healing in itself. Thank you for reading about the journey. It helps a person to step outside of themselves. I have Ken Carey’s Starseed Transmissions. I haven’t read any of his other books, but I enjoy reading from that perspective — spending time with “truth”.

Hi Evelyn.
Thanks for your comment. I love hearing about other people who work with a coach, not because they “need” to but because they “choose” to. It just accentuates the positives that you are already living. And, like you say, it takes you a shorter time to get to your destination. I’ve heard that phrase before “failure is feedback” — so true. And if you take a risk and fail, you just cross that item off your list and find the next. Eventually you’re bound to collect some successes on that list.

Hi Tom.
I agree. They say we are given what we CAN handle. It’s not always easy to hear that when you’re in the middle of the storm, but it does make a person stop and think, and take some responsibility for where they are. Thanks!

I see mine when I hit a blank. It takes me a shorter time to get back on track as compared to if I am to do it on my own. It helps when my coach is able to advise me from a spiritual perspective. I find that I am so much richer because of her wisdom. They inspire me to practice meditation and follow a path that resonates intuitively.

Yes, I have gone through a number of times when I wanted to quit. But as I thought about it, I asked myself if quitting was really the answer. Have I really failed? The answer to all my questions would invariably be no. The experiences I have been through may on my first look appear like failures but they are really feedback in how to get things right. “There is no such as thing as failure, merely feedback” so the saying goes.

It seems that you’re in good hands with your coach. I have absolute faith that you’re not going to abandon yourself. You may appear to be having a hazy road right now but the fog will soon clear. “This too will pass!”

Take care,
Evelyn

love from Rob

For about three weeks now I have taken more time to get back to the things I love. My garden, my walks, my painting, just away from stress in general. Sure I have my work, my children, clothes, etc. but I mean really let go and just connect with myself. I feel so much better now. Better than I have felt in a long time.

Maybe it is Spring. Maybe it is just something we each have to go through in order to grow.

You need to hang on, take some time for you and you will be floating again. I am a huge believer in having “faith” in what you believe. Have “faith” in yourself and you will be just fine. Just fine.

(I am glad to see you opening up. We can all connect. We are all human with emotions.)

Hugs to you.

I smile as I read Tess’ comment – I remember those days so well. As I look back on those days – the days when my three children took “shifts” to ensure I didn’t get more than 3 hours of sleep in a single stretch and my husband was on the road constantly for his job – I marvel at what I was able to accomplish.

At the time, I couldn’t see how “high” the seas were. I couldn’t see that the act of SURVIVAL was a feat of great strength. Looking back, I can now see clearly how unrealistic my expectations were not only of myself, but also the circumstances. At the time, I was constantly frustrated that I didn’t accomplish MORE.

Remember even a luxury ocean liner can feel like a dinghy when a storm is raging on the high seas!

Oh, and to take the “ship” analogy a step further – some people never venture out into the ocean with their boats. They stay in small ponds and tiny streams. They never find the river which leads to the ocean which in turn, leads to adventure on the high seas! On the contrary, those boat captains are rarely in water that is over their head and they will never experience the great storms one can encounter out in the open ocean.

Oh – did I mention that when you stick to those small ponds and tiny streams that the scenery doesn’t change? It’s very safe – and very limiting at the same time.

You’re on an adventure now Davina and it’s very “exciting”. It may feel overwhelming at times – but I’m sure you’re going to look back on these days and realize that you had to take your ship out on open waters so you could reach the magical destination which awaits you!

I can’t WAIT to get the email from you which reads, “I’ve arrived and you were right – it was worth the trip!!!” I don’t expect to get that email tomorrow – but I know you will write it.

First off what an amazing quote to start off with!!! So powerful and so true. Heaven and Earth can be and are one….but it is us who perceive differently.

Second off, the most amazing life lessons on metaphors I heard from Anthony Robbins. Our metaphors can actually many times make us or break us as your story eludes to. Thus I have since myself become very aware and conscious of what metaphors I personally use. Is life a battle or is it a blissful vacation? Etc…etc…

And last but not least, I have to say that today I am at peace no matter what as I see myself and each moment of life as a precious moment. Nothing is taken for granted, at least nothing that really matters and I have to tell you it has helped me so much to live this way, that there really are no more sinking ships, or battles, or “bad” days. Every moment that is part of OUR LIFE journey is a precious blessing.

Hi Tess.
Sorry, you went into my spam folder, but I’ve rescued you :-) Thank you for sharing your experience. Your husband was there for you in a wonderful way. Sounds like he was empathetic and patient. It can be difficult when you’re right in the middle of it… but it sure feels good on the other side doesn’t it?

Hi Liara.
You’ve made me cry — thank you :-) And thank you for reminding me that I’m the captain of my ship. A terrific analogy.

I know what it’s like to want to give up, to be on the edge and want to give one last push into the abyss. I was 23 and my children were 5, 3 and the twins were 1. I was so exhauseted and of course could see no end in sight. I would cry at night and my husband would tell me the only thing I had to do was wake up in the morning and put one foot in front of the other. And that is what I did.

I really had a crazy life until I got some relief 4 years later when the twins went to school. Now we are all grown up and doing well:)

So on your toughest days remember “just put one foot in front of the other.”

I went to a therapist for the first time when I was 27 and as a coach I’ve had a coach as well. That’s what makes us so good!

Oh, and what Jannie said – I think it’s so cool that you’re a coach and have a coach as well – it just shows that this is something everyone can benefit from!

Hi Vered.
Life is so much more worthwhile when you can share encouragement with other people. If I am encouraging folk to believe in themselves then sharing this was priceless.

Hi Henie.
You know, you couldn’t be more right on with your comment. Saying it out loud makes a world of difference. I’ve considered this before that the “resistance” for lack of a better word, is just energy that is there and needs to be released. And because we’re physically aware, we feel it and personalize it. Perhaps we don’t have to “deal” with everything. Energy just needs to move.

Hi Jannie.
LOL at your comment about letting go of ex-husbands. I’ve never been married, but my mother was… 4 times. She got pretty good at letting go :-)
That IS a good point you’ve made… the things we really want keep surfacing. And, yes this life coach has her own life coach. It’s a professional partnership… that’s what it is. Even the pro sports teams have coaches to keep them spot on… keep those shoes polished, etc., blah, blah, blah :-)

I believe the things that we really want will keep resurfacing — those we should keep after.

And I find it so sweet that a life coach has a life coach :)