Comments on: Positively Breathing — Please Love Me

By: Davina

Davina — Thu, 28 May 2009 06:01:16 +0000

Hi Evelyn.
Given the line of work you’ve chosen, you are most probably very sensitive and can easily pick up on other people’s emotions too. Now that you’ve “done the work”, you know what is yours and what is theirs.

Hi Chris.
You’re welcome. And that’s an excellent point. I’ve heard so many times that no one can really hurt us unless we allow it. I agree completely with what you’ve said — the learning takes place in those places that we want to hide from. Thank you!

By: Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching

Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching — Wed, 27 May 2009 20:05:58 +0000

Hi Davina — thanks for this. One thing I’d add is that, although I think we’re likely to be disappointed if we expect others to be our teachers, my sense is that they often are even though they don’t intend to be (and perhaps even if they intend to hurt us) because, when we feel hurt or uncomfortable around them, we’re really getting in touch with a place where we aren’t fully okay with ourselves.

By: Evelyn Lim

Evelyn Lim — Wed, 27 May 2009 07:01:34 +0000

I used to beat myself up very easily. I found it hardest to forgive myself. I had fixated ideas of how to define myself. If friends didn't respond well to me, I used to feel emotionally down. It took me a lot of inner healing to get to where I am. It is true that not everyone will like us. I have long since decided that I should choose my "battles" carefully. I choose to focus on the areas that are of greater importance. I learn to take things less personally and life less seriously! Evelyn Lim’s last blog post..Master Your Life Lessons

By: Davina

Davina — Tue, 26 May 2009 18:00:33 +0000

Hi Evita. Excellent point! These expectations seem to make it all about us and we forget that the person has their agenda too... and often they're not always the same. Expectations don't leave much room for error do they? I think you've made a key point here about being comfortable with ourselves because then we put less pressure on others by looking less to them for approval. I'm glad you're enjoying these affirmation posts Evita. Cheers. Davina’s last blog post..Positively Breathing — Affirmation 4

By: Evita

Evita — Mon, 25 May 2009 23:48:34 +0000

This is excellent Davina! Indeed our egos get a head start in this world and then lead us in various directions that are not always beneficial to our being.

The way I look at being liked or approved of, etc… is that it comes down to dropping our own expectations too. We “expect” that if we are nice, caring, loving, etc., then the person will be the same for us. But at this point in my life I have realized that there is so much more to this story here. Just because I “choose” to act a certain way, does not mandate another to do the same.

We need to be more comfortable being who we are and let others be who and how they want to be.

P.S. By the way the affirmation posts are so lovely and so dear to the heart!

Evita’s last blog post..Against the Odds

By: Davina

Davina — Mon, 25 May 2009 04:30:56 +0000

Hi Mama Zen.
Thanks for your comment. That’s because we get better as we age. How could we even doubt our “perfection” lol.