Welcome

So, you want to know what this blog is about?

I like to investigate why we so often feel like we need to fix ourselves and our lives instead of just living them.

Why do we look outside of ourselves for the answers? Why do we buy so many self-help books or other unlimited resources to help with our healing, or to make us feel better about ourselves? From my own experience (because I too have a library of self-help books), I believe that we are simply collecting experience. We try one thing and then move on to the next. But all the while we feel unfulfilled because we think there is something wrong with us and we are expecting these tools and resources to define us.

It’s been said that dysfunction is an illusion designed by the inner critic, who takes things personally. It does a good job at holding a person in a place of judgment and causing them to react defensively. In my experience I’ve fallen into the trap of defining myself based on the inner critic’s direction.

We give too much credit to the inner critic. If it’s an illusion, how can it design anything? Think about that. Which makes me wonder about spirit too. In my humble opinion spirit exists, although I can’t see it any more clearly than I can see the inner critic. Both of these exist as beliefs for me because of experience, and how I have perceived that experience.

Anyway, when those nasty inner voices cloud our vision we are confused because it goes against what we are made of (whatever that is). Our natural instinct for truth and balance runs deep and the inner critic can be convincing. If a person is sensitive this can easily throw them off track.  An internal struggle ensues because their perception of how things are happening doesn’t resonate with their instincts.

Life illustrates different shades of crimson for people. Whether we are enthusiastically inspired by our experience – resonance, or feeling resistant and judgmental – dissonance.

Experience is the ultimate accomplishment

There is only one outcome we can count on in life. What lies between now and then is experience – the ultimate accomplishment.

I’m inspired to practice experience without expectation. To notice. Some days I succeed, some days I fail – two sides of the same coin. But, getting up in the morning to focus on experience rather than accomplishment sheds new light on things. I feel lighter starting the day this way.

“When you want to arrive at your goal more than you want to be doing what you are doing, you become stressed. The balance between enjoyment and structural tension is lost, and the latter has won. When there is stress, it is usually a sign that the ego has returned, and you are cutting yourself off from the creative power of the universe.”

Eckhart Tolle

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